April 16, 2021

Pricey Pastor,

I’m 21 and my boyfriend is 29. We met via my brother as they each used to work on the identical firm. They was associates however due to what occurred, my brother doesn’t discuss to him as earlier than. The day we met, he got here to a celebration with us and we have been dancing and flirting. Nonetheless, the next day I used to be speaking to my older sister and she or he stated he was means too previous for me and he was solely going to be round for one month due to his job. She stated additionally that I ought to go and have enjoyable since I appreciated him. I advised her that I did not know have intercourse with out being emotionally connected. She requested for his quantity and that’s the place I tousled. The opposite day I used to be on the telephone with the man and we have been speaking about assembly up and attending to know one another higher, solely to grasp that my sister and the man have been having the identical dialog. After two days she got here and requested me if it was okay with me to go to the park with the man.

I used to be shocked and damage however I stated no. I used to be upset as a result of this man was nonetheless planning to fulfill with me. Nonetheless, we saved texting one another and some days later the man was at my home to see my sister. I stated nothing. I simply locked myself away in my room.

This man began to remain over at our home many occasions and my sister knew that I nonetheless appreciated him. Even after I introduced it as much as her she did nothing about it. She works more often than not so I used to be left at house with the man more often than not. We might discuss for hours and we might cook dinner collectively, buy groceries and she or he would usually inform me to make breakfast for him and to accompany him to many locations as a result of he was new within the space. She even despatched me to test on him when he had a hangover. I ended up in mattress with him and we cuddled till I fell asleep. My brother walked in on us and that’s when my sister came upon. They broke up and the man and I began to exit extra as a result of I couldn’t discuss to anyone in regards to the state of affairs. She left our home and went to stay overseas as a result of she stated she did not understand how to have a look at me as a result of I betrayed her. She prolonged her keep after I advised her I had intercourse with him and that we have been relationship. Nonetheless, I used to be hiding this from my household. I used to be spending totally different nights at his place however my household thought I used to be at my pal’s home.

He lately requested me to marry him and I stated sure, however we must wait till I end faculty. That was not the primary time he proposed. I do not understand how my household will react. He stated I shouldn’t take into consideration my household as a result of they’ll come round finally. I’m not positive that they’ll come round and I do not wish to lose them as household. I do love him and I do know he can be an excellent husband, however I do not wish to threat my household for it. I would like your pressing recommendation.


Pricey Okay.J.,

From the very outset your sister wished this man who confirmed curiosity in you. In plain Jamaican time period, she did every little thing to ‘tek him weh from yuh’. She succeeded for some time and each of you ended up sleeping with this man. Your sister has no disgrace. She knew the way you felt in regards to the man however but she slept with him when you have been there. Then again, I do not know if this man is for actual. He used your sister and she or he could not take it and she or he went away. Now he’s asking you to marry him and telling you that you do not have to fret about your kinfolk.It is best to discuss to the identical brother that caught you in mattress with this man. I do not suppose it is best to belief him and my suggestion to you is that you simply finish the connection with him straight away. By the best way, why would not he need you to speak to your loved ones about his proposal? What’s he hiding and what’s he afraid of?


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